It’s not your fault, you couldn’t have predicted all this, also, it’s better to have things out in the open.
This has been a healthy discussion I feel, aside from some arguments/disagreements and troll comments that cropped up, because we’ve all been able to express our opinions on the matter, and in turn make you feel better somewhat.
Hopefully your next encounter goes the way you would like it to, but having a chance to see them in person is something in itself.

“You should leave this fandom now. I know I am.”

So based on ones retelling of a bad experience, you’d actually stop liking not only that person, but also all those connected to them?
Well that escalated quickly.

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K-Pop idols have more reasons than anyone else in the world to hate social interaction, honestly, how would you feel about your life if you couldn’t take a step from your home without being approached.
Couple that with traveling times, the whole Leeteuk deal (which I can’t believe someone said “Isn’t an excuse”, because even though I’m not a Super Junior fan and I often describe myself as a cold person, I almost teared up when I heard the news, on top of that, I was sad for a few hours, I can only imagine how Girls’ Generation as a whole took it) and then being approached by a fan wanting a photo.. It’s honestly no surprise to me that you were both ignored and looked at weird.

Also, you describe it as, “Yuri gave you a disgusted look and then said, “Nice to meet you, sorry”.
She could be apologising for that look, perhaps it was genuine.
Maybe Tiffany felt that ignoring you would be the best course of action, after all, Yuri had left a bad first impression on you.
You can’t expect people to be perfect 100% of the time, I’m sure there have been times when you’ve scowled at someone, or ignored someone because you were having an off-day.

There are potentially many more explanations, one possibly being that you’re potentially trying to start a rumour, or that Yuri was feeling unwell, perhaps Tiffany didn’t hear you.. A number of things could’ve led to this, and honestly, you don’t know unless you’re them. Who knows? Nobody knows.

Don’t be disheartened, you had high expectations and you were let down, it happens, prop yourself back up and if you feel like it, continue supporting them the way you want to see them, rather than the way you saw them in Milan, coming out of a car, bearing the weight of a friend’s grief and potentially other things.
All of the girls are lovely people, but it doesn’t mean to say that they can’t be disappointing, or rude, and suchlike, perhaps if we all carried an open mind and didn’t have a “fantasy meeting” rolling in our heads, we’d all like them even more, as people, rather than idols.

@llc1281

I felt it was my duty to say something, I find it very sad when people forget what it means to be SONE.

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SONE doesn’t mean, “Label me as a SoShi fan”, it doesn’t just refer to a single fan of SoShi, it refers to us all.
SONE isn’t just a “fan-name”, it’s a lot more special. Let me break it down for anyone here who has forgotten.
SONE is a compound word, made up of “SoShi” and “One”, pronounced, “So-one” or “Sowon”.
SONE isn’t just a clever play on the Korean romanisation of “Wish”, SONE means that we’re family.
SONE is a special kind of family, and I will tell you why.
A normal family may fight, ignore members for years and even break apart, SONE have stayed strong ever since SoShi stepped onto the scene.
SONE have stayed by their side through thick and thin, SONE have never been divided.
SONE have never crumbled, and SONE have lasted through every anti-fan or rumour mill that has attempted to split us up.
SONE isn’t a normal family, SONE are global, SONE are from all sorts of backgrounds, SONE are all ages, genders and ethnicity.
SONE is an ideal family, we’re always there for each other.
We’re SONE not because we’re fans of SoShi, we’re SONE because we and SoShi are one.

I’d like people to remember this, when they read that, “Tiffany did this..” or “Yuri said that..”, I’d like them to remember that we’re not against SoShi, we’re here to support them and love them, and if they make mistakes, we’re here to forgive them not hate them.

And don’t forget, SONE means that SoShi is part of us too.
When SoShi talks to us, they talk to SONE, and when we talk about SONE, we talk about them.
The next time you say, “SONE hwaiting!” or a similar thing, just think, you are calling out to a worldwide family that is so closely knit they redefine what it means to be a family, and you’re also calling out to the very heart of that family, SoShi..
At the end of the day, rumour or not, we’re SONE, we’re millions strong, we’re the world’s greatest family, and as such, we should treat SONE like family, love each other, forgive each other and never fight each other.

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I hope that message isn’t lost on people, because I hate to see a single SONE unhappy.

@stephaniecee88

I say, “Could be spreading a rumour”, simply as an example of how varied the reasons could be, not because I don’t believe you, but because nothing is certain, there is a reason to doubt everything unless given evidence, and as such people are more likely to believe their current evidence until it can be updated.

I’m sorry if I offended you by mentioning that, I should’ve replaced it for another reason, but to be honest I was recycling reasons already suggested.

@kevinwang129

“Incident” makes it sound like this was some massive scandal.

Yuri gave a fan a dirty look and promptly apologised, Tiffany ignored the same fan, but some people are acting like they threw spears and chanted, “Burn in hell sinner”.

If SoShi are having a tough time, we shouldn’t go, “Ugh, they’re so nasty”, and start saying things like, “Ugh, such a disappointment”.
If you’re having a shitty day, what do your friends do?
Try to cheer you up!

We should all be supporting SoShi regardless of how they’re feeling, they need us when times are tough, as well as when times are great.
Being a SONE isn’t about being there for the moments where SoShi shine bright, being a SONE is about being there through it all, don’t tell me you’ve forgotten after I just posted that?

To Tiffany & Yuri, I say this..
SONE are always here for you, whatever the weather, if you’re having a rough time, we understand, we wont judge your actions, because we know how we would feel in the same situation.
This goes for all of SoShi, in fact all of us together, SONE, our feelings are the same when we’re SONE, we need to be supportive and positive for every SONE out there and for SoShi.

As SONE, we need to come together and make sure we support each other, just as a true family would through rough times.
So please SONE, lets leave this small mistake in the past, let us not allow it to grow, forgive Yuri and Tiffany and continue to be supportive, make them happy and you’ll be happy, trust me.

@kevinwang129

I don’t have any intention of arguing either, after all, I didn’t come here to argue, I came here to be with people who share a similar interest, SoShi.

I’m not doubting that it hurt @stephaniecee88, it would hurt if anyone did it, not just someone you respect. But even then, you shouldn’t let these little things grow into something massive, it’s only by perpetuating this that it will grow, you can suppress bad memories in time.
We’ve not been described Yuri’s tone of voice or anything, or the timing between the look and the apology, but I imagine that it’s a sincere apology for the look, it may also be an apology for not sparing the time to talk to @stephaniecee88, really, only Yuri knows, but I know that Yuri definitely isn’t going out there and throwing looks to hurt people, it’s not as if she is evil.

Idols have this pressure to be in a permanent state of being nice and friendly, and that’s tough, you can’t expect them to be this way 100% of the time, I’m not even this was for 100% of a day and I don’t have the pressures of an idol on my shoulders.
Whilst this isn’t good morally, it’s only natural that even idols who have to retain an image slip in and out of this, just as normal people do, but when a friend comes up to you and says, “Hey Kevin, how’re you today?”, and you ignore him, or look at him as if to say, “Get away from me”, he’s not going to publicly broadcast this encounter, whereas with an idol, this kind of thing would blow out of proportion in the mass media.
Whilst we can both agree that being rude to someone isn’t fantastic, and no one should be rude, we don’t live in a 100% happy utopian society, and we can both agree that everyone famous or not has been rude to someone in their lifetime, and it shouldn’t be judged so harshly.

I’m not trying to “cover up” the mistake, acknowledging something is saying, “Yep, that happened”, I’m saying to forgive and forget, if I was to “cover it up”, you couldn’t have forgiveness, because you can’t forgive nothing.

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Let me remind you that I said, “I find it very sad when people forget what it means to be SONE”, I gave that large comment about “SONE” as a reminder that people should be STRIVING to embrace each other not argue with each other, we’re all on the SAME SIDE, we’re supposed to be ONE.
It wasn’t me saying, “This is what I believe every SONE is like”, it was me saying, “We shouldn’t be fighting, we should be together because we’re SONE”.
Sorry if that wasn’t entirely clear, admittedly, my post was a bit like a rallying cry, which was part my intention as it was supposed to spark something, to inspire people, but the underlying message was “Stop arguing, this isn’t what SONE should be”.

It was in no way and attempt to kill individuality, individuality is awesome of course, it was an attempt to unite people under a common purpose, I’m sure that I mentioned that while every SONE is an individual, we’ve all got a common purpose.
There are moments when appealing to emotion is a lot better than appealing to logic.
For example, story-writers want to appeal to peoples emotions, rather than peoples “logical thought process”, because evoking an emotion is a lot more powerful than igniting some spark of knowing, however that’s besides the point.

We all know the girls aren’t gods, after all, we do call them our angels. *ba dum tss*
But quite frankly, comparing them to God, makes it seem like the girls are sitting on a cloud somewhere calling floods upon the Earth, I know they’re at the crest of the Hallyu Wave but this is just ridiculous (on a roll today).
But in all seriousness, if the girls disappoint us, we shouldn’t turn away from them, we should support them, we all say support a lot, but do we always know the meaning?
Support means to “bear part, or all, the weight of something”, when we say, “Support SoShi”, we’re saying, “Help them carry the weight”, whether that is carrying the weight of their troubles, burdens, successes, whatever, we’re here to help them, to be frank if you’re not supporting them, you’re only aiding in their fall.

It could reflect many things, that perhaps they’re going through troubling times in their private lives, or their family life, or it could be that all of them don’t want to meet fans out of fear, or something negative.
We don’t know, all I know is, we must support them, if they don’t like meeting fans, give them a reason to like meeting fans, if something is troubling them, we should send messages of encouragement, both of these things show our support.

We’re all different, and this story has affected each of us in a different way, I personally haven’t be hit hard, if at all, since I know there are thousands of other idols across the world that do much worse than, “Be impolite to a fan”, on a daily basis, I wont name names as I’m not wanting to discriminate against other idols (K-Pop or not), but I’m sure everyone can come up with examples.

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Taengangers unite!
(I think we go by Taengangers anyway, I just tend to say, “My bias is Taeyeon”, rather than use a fan-name to suggest my bias.

Option 4, I’m a semi-new fan, who has browsed Soshified since day 1 but didn’t make an account until recently.
I’ve been a fan for about 6-7 months.
“Under the influence of fan craze”, is something I could hardly describe myself as, I am an open minded critical thinker, this is how I became a SoShi fan in the first place, because I didn’t say, “Ugh, a foreign language, ugh a girl group, ugh, I’m going to go listen to some metal”, when I was confronted with SoShi.
I used to be a crazy fan of bands, I would fiercely defend the bands I love, but now I’m open minded when it comes to listening to music, I don’t ever listen to a song thinking, “I wont like this”, or look at a band and say, “Not for me”, I critic and form my own opinions rather than have a setting in my brain that says, “Don’t like this”.
I’m more than aware how diverse the SONE community is, but to be united under a common goal is what we stand for, and whether you’re a serial killer or.. Have giant hands and an orange tail.. I don’t know.. If you’re a SONE, then you’re supposed to be supporting SoShi, that’s what I was trying to get across.

(I didn’t notice any mistakes, your comment was fine, haha).

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I don’t expect you to write back (It can be hard to write back to me, I generally have something to say about everything), but I’ve put my opinions out in the open, and some people have thanked me for voicing them, they feel the same way I do about supporting SoShi, and that’s awesome.
Oh, and I know that tone on the internet is difficult to pick up, so please, don’t think that anything I’ve said is argumentative, or an attack, because sometimes when opinions clash, or one party is blunt, it can come across wrong.
We’re all friends here.